You have described your situation and it is exactly as I feel. Sleep induced by mess (legal) and a fetal position. My wife left 11/15/15. No matter your situation, the better solution for the moment is to try to be calm and work with a therapist.

Now, he isn’t trying to disconnect from you emotionally. He has already made his decision and nothing phases him anymore. In fact her relationship with her husband is going the other way. They have always talked and been friends through this whole separation. She never wanted to make it more difficult then it already was for her children. She misses her girls and she feels her siblings and their partners treat her and look at her differently. She feels like a bad person who cannot be forgiven for leaving her family. She misses hosting family gatherings, although she still attends them at her husbands house. She has recently gone for hikes with her husband, meets him at the gym for game of squash, goes to theatre shows with him and their girls. And just this week has gone away with just him on a business trip over seas. Find a Therapist Advanced SearchThese are couples that “grow up” together and then “grow apart.” Husbands become brotherly, and wives become sisterly, until it just feels too weird to be romantic. These are hard situations because there is still a strong emotional connection, but no physical connection. Many people choose to stay in these kinds of marriages, but for many, giving up romance and sex is just not an option. Look at the research it’s madness what people are ending marriages for .The problem is you are supposed to be a team function as a team nothing else or anyone else matters . Be greatful for what you have not what you don’t. Grass is not always greener and a lot of times they are then in a new relatioship only to wakeup one day and find they feel exactly the same as they did in the previous relationship .Talk to each other sort problems out no one is perfect don’t badmouth the other person . I am not saying you have to stay with someone who no longer is committed to the team in a very damaging way but the research shows people are throwing the towell in for very small reasons. Solicitors dont help you can go to them and tell them anything and they will help you.

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I am sincerely sorry to have read and felt your confusing, pain and patience in your situation. You seem quite smart and extremely able to do this. Really sounds like he is the one that will be missing out, just find yourself again. Yes, that might be a reason because a lot of people isolate themselves when they’re dealing with a lot of stress. She later asked me to move out the house to give her space as she could move in and she kept saying I was impossible to live with (yet managed for 5 years previously) Well I agree that these might be some of the reasons people leave, but I disagree with the “coping” responses.

If what you shared with them was deep, you may want to keep the communication lines open – even if that means trying to remain friends with them immediately after they walk away from your life. This may not be the best idea. I have divorced my wife, with no ill will. She and I know the marriage was no longer a marriage and to carry on would be a sham. As I was saying, steer clear of making up stories in your head. One of my clients was telling me that she was sure that her ex boyfriend had a better connection with this new girl because they hadn’t known each other for that long and they were already in a relationship with each other. My client thought that she meant nothing to her ex, and I told her that she needed to stop the story telling going on in your head.

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Reboot the physical activities you used to love . It could be anything, including swimming and even working out. 15. Travel

Do not allow your ex to take you for granted. Because we tend to overvalue what we’ve lost and what we do not possess yet, focus on showing your ex that you have everything going for you and that he may have made a terrible decision in letting you go… We both feel so strongly that we are right for each other, we trully do love each other. There had been so many years apart and having four children between the two of us makes moving forward difficult to say the least.

Sarcasm is always one way to get out of uncomfortable situations and shield ourselves from the brisk “vicissitudes” of this world. Just use sarcasm!